CULTIVATING SEPARATENESS IN SIBLINGS!
--Think of them as unique individuals (from the moment of conception/adoption referral)
--Expect to have different feelings for each
--Give each child consistent "alone time" with you
--Avoid the "fair and equal" childhood
--Avoid comparisons and labels (often becomes limiting, self-fulfilling prophesy)
--Encourage children to pursue their own friendships and interests
--Twins should not be expected to be each other's constant companion/surrogate parent