Oh, my! We have entered a whole new level of fit-throwing at my house. I'm talking temper tantrums like I have never seen from my sweet, little, angel Jude before. These are the screaming, bursting into tears, throwing himself on the ground, kicking tantrums that you see other kids throw, but you never expect to see them out of your own child. And I am seeing them more and more everyday! Help!
Jude's outbursts happen over anything and everything. Anytime we tell him "no" he instantly starts wailing and crying. It's awful! One of our major sources of conflict...climbing. Jude wants to climb on everything right now. Once he gets onto a chair and is standing on it and I tell him to sit down or make him get down altogether he loses it. I pick him up and tell him "no" and he kicks and stiffens up his entire body to make it as difficult for me as possible.
The worst incident so far happened last week. We went out to eat as a family - not anywhere fancy, just a casual dining restaurant. We were enjoying our meal when Jude decided that he was done. He started throwing his food off the table. I said, "No" and that made him very upset. He started crying...loudly, so I got some toys out of his bag to keep him entertained while Daddy and I finished our dinner. That didn't help either. Jude started throwing his toys too. We again, told him "No" and that sent him off the deep end. He started screaming and crying and Daddy had to take him out to the car while I finished my meal alone. Everyone in the restaurant watched as my husband carried our kicking, screaming little boy outside. I was so embarrassed!
At this point, my husband and I have decided that our plan of attack is to stay firm with Jude. We're going to tell him no when he is doing something wrong, stop him from doing whatever it is he's not supposed to be doing (ex: throwing toys, climbing on furniture, creating general chaos) and then ignore him. My pediatrician says that at Jude's age (19 months) toddlers just want a reaction from parents and that the best thing you can do is ignore their fits. That's what we're doing for now. In a couple of months, I think we're going to introduce "time out." We'll see how that goes.
Parents, if you have any tips for me on how to handle these tantrums, please, PLEASE, feel free to post them in the comment section below or e-mail me: firstname.lastname@example.org