My son Riggs is 15 months now. A sweet boy who loves to laugh and play with his cars and trucks. And he LOVES his Daddy. They laugh and rough house and have long conversations. Sometimes they just look out the window and watch the cars drive by. I have adored watching Riggs with his father from the day he was born. I can still remember balling crying when the hospital photographer came in our room to take pictures of Riggs and Jason. I have never felt so much love in my life.
But this week I for the first time, I was overcome by jealousy. For the first time Riggs wants nothing to do with me. When I walk into the room he might look at me but that’s it. If I’m holding him and he sees Jason he immediately reaches for Jason and cries until he gets him. The other night he was sick and crying uncontrollably and the only thing that calmed him down was Jason holding and talking to him. Now I know they tell you, “this is normal, your baby goes through stages of which parent he or she prefers.” Uh uh. Nope. That doesn’t make it better.
From the day he came home, I noticed he paid more attention to Jason. I also noticed Jason knew how to talk to him.. I feel like the mom is the one who has the “instincts” and is supposed to know how to talk to her child and know what to say to make him or her feel better. But not at our house. Jason is clearly more comfortable with children. Always has been. I find myself observing their interaction hoping I can pick up a few tips and clues to better communicate with my little boy. I’m not extremely worried about it. I’m more surprised than anything. And truly grateful that I have a husband who is involved and so caring. I didn’t want kids until I met Jason because I knew he would be the perfect dad and would help me be a good mom..
Any other moms feel this way?